Mary Carryl, an Irish-born loyal servant and friend of the celebrated Ladies of Llangollen, dies on November 22, 1809. She serves them up to her death. When the Ladies die, they share the same grave.

Carryl is brought up in a poor family in Ross, County Wexford. Little is known about her until she is employed by Lady Elizabeth “Betty” and Sir William Fownes, 2nd Baronet, at the Woodstock Estate near Inistioge, County Kilkenny. He inherits the baronetcy from his father Sir William Fownes, 1st Baronet, the Lord Mayor of Dublin, and over 21,000 acres from his grandfather. When Fownes marries Elizabeth Ponsonby, he receives £4,000 as a dowry and the couple builds the six-bayed, three-story Woodstock House in County Kilkenny in 1745-47. In 1769, the Fownes have a thirteen-year-old guest to stay for some time named Sarah Ponsonby, who is Elizabeth’s cousin and the orphaned daughter of Chambré Brabazon Ponsonby. She attends school at Kilkenny.

Sarah develops a friendship with Eleanor Butler, which is not approved of by the Fownes nor by Eleanor’s family guardians. When the friendship begins, Sarah is an unhappy thirteen-year-old orphan. She is captivated by the well-educated Eleanor Butler, a 30-year-old spinster no longer considered marriageable. Sarah is also receiving unwanted attention from Sir William, her guardian.

When Eleanor Butler runs away from home, she is hidden in Sarah’s room and Carryl smuggles in food for her stowaway. Eventually Butler and Ponsonby agree that they can leave Ireland together. They go to Llangollen in Wales where they set up home in a cottage called Plas Newydd. Meanwhile Carryl, who is known as Mary the Bruiser, has been fired after throwing a candlestick that wounds another servant. Her prospects are saved when Eleanor and Sarah send for her to come to Llangollen.

In time Eleanor and Sarah become notorious as “The Ladies of Llangollen,” and Carryl becomes both their servant and the head of the household. She is loyal to her employers. She is said to have “masculine qualities” and Lady Eleanor’s diary records how she gives as good as she gets as she bargains loudly with the fishermen, the butchers and the inebriated.

The lifestyle of the Ladies of Llangollen attracts attention. They receive notable visitors including the Arthur Wellesley, 1st Duke of Wellington; the poets William Wordsworth and Anna Seward; enlightenment leaders Erasmus Darwin and Josiah Wedgwood; and writers including Sir Walter Scott.^[3]

Carryl dies at Plas Newydd on November 22, 1809, and is buried in the churchyard of St. Collen’s Church, Llangollen. She leaves a shilling to her brother and sister, but leaves the field she owns to Sarah. When in time the Ladies of Llangollen die, they are buried beside their faithful servant.

The memorial monument to Mary Carryl, Eleanor Butler and Sarah Ponsonby in the churchyard of St. Collen’s Church is erected in 1810. The inscription on Carryl’s part of the monument reads: “In Memory of / Mrs Mary Carryl / Deceased 22 November 1809 / This monument is erected by Eleanor Butler, / and Sarah Ponsonby, of Plasnewydd in this Parish. / Released from Earth and all its transient woes, / She whose remains beneath this stone repose, / Stedfast in Faith resigned her parting breath, / Looked up with Christian joy, and smiled in Death! / Patient, Industrious, Faithful, Generous, Kind, / Her Conduct left the proudest far behind, / Her Virtues dignified her humble birth, / And raised her mind above this sordid earth, / Attachment (Sacred bond of grateful breasts) / Extinguished but with life, this Tomb attests, / Reared by Two Friends who will her loss bemoan, / ‘Till with Her Ashes…Here shall rest, Their own.”

(Pictured: A portrait of Mary Carryl from the Welsh Portrait Collection at the National Library of Wales)